At the big-box home center today I strolled out of the garden section pushing a cart with $10 worth of supplies, right past three employees who wished me a good day without any verification that I had paid for my goods (I had, at a register inside, out of their sight). When I travel for work, no one in the hotel lobby has ever asked me to show a room key before going up the elevators, even late at night. These are just tiny examples of invisibly-claimed normalcy. It relies on the unspoken recogn